The Secret Sizzle Ingredient in Couple Relationships

(From the archives of Conjoint Couples Counseling)

Londonderry NH

What makes one couple relationship sizzle and another fall flat. Chances are the secret has more to do with simple interactions between the partners.

To put the sizzle back into a relationship - The key ingredient is right before your eyes.

It is a look, a touch, a tone of voice. Time spent in conversation, which includes eye contact. Really seeing and being seen increases trust and deepens emotional connection.

When women talk about what turns them on – it usually has nothing to do with her lovers great looks, how much he earns or the kind of car he drives.  It has everything to do with how her lover looks into her eyes, touches her hair and listens, really listens.

When she is truly seen she has the experience of feeling special.

When men talk to one another about what turns them on it may sound one way– but in the quietness of a counseling office he confides that the woman he loves, speaks to him from her heart, touches his shoulder and reminds him how essential he is to her life.

The secret of relationship sizzle is all about how we feel when we are with the one we love.

Sizzle Starters:

• Say words that equal “I love you” every day at least once.

• Speak with a gentle touch.

• Listen, really listen – turn off the television and make couple time a priority.

• Become the best parent you can be.

• Make eye contact

• Help with the chores, put the kids to bed early, take out the trash and dim the lights.

 Get ready for the Sizzle……

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